So I’ve been out of work now for almost 2 full months at this point. My dad is adamant that I need to apply for a job at the business / company that my ex works at, I personally don’t want to work with him let alone see him daily… It’s very frustrating for me because I don’t want anything to do with him. I’ve tried to explain to my dad that I don’t want to work with or near my ex and yet it feels like he’s belittling my decision; telling me that it’s not about being uncomfortable that it’s about getting back out there and working again…
he seems to think that it’s going to be easy for me, however I think he is wrong… aside from that they’re growing and moving from their current location to the building where my previous employer is currently located as of Feb 1st from what I’m told. As well as several employees from my previous job are already working for that company b/c of all of the downsizing and I’m not 100% sure I want to work with them again so at this point I’m fairly sure it would be an uncomfortable situation for me all around.
I know he thinks he’s being helpful but it just irritates me and makes me feel like my decision / feelings / opinion doesn’t matter… and I don’t want to feel like that anymore, I lived for 6 years feeling like that and it’s not ok with me.
Starting tomorrow I have a series of workshops to attend, through these workshops hopefully I will be able to determine what I want to do with the rest of my life career wise… I have some limitations as to what I can do because of the fact that I have no car and because of my Crohn’s disease therefore it’s a little harder for me as I need to have access to a bathroom and in most cases it appears that an office job would be best suited for me, but we’ll see what the workshops have to say.
Ill just say that you need to do what makes you comfortable. I can understand your dad’s viewpoint of “work is work” kind of thing where hes more concerned with you finding income than how you get along with the ex. Unfortunately a situation like that will just be complicated in ways he probably doesnt see or grasp. It’ll make for an uncomfortable work environment and thats not good at all =(
Exactly my thoughts I’m not sure how I would be able to go to work everyday knowing I would most likely run into him at some point if not daily… I just don’t think I would be comfortable at all. I understand how it seems and I had a friend say “well you’re both adults…” but the fact of the matter is that I don’t know how he will act / react and don’t know that I want to find out…